Self Love 5 months ago by Liz Adams

More is Not Always More

I had a realization this weekend.

I was walking back to our house after being at our neighbors and feeling guilty that I hadn’t shared anything on IG all weekend. I should have shared more. Then I started thinking about our house and all the things I didn’t get put away and I thought I should have done more. I didn’t open my computer once this weekend which means I am behind today and that would have been solved if I had been more productive. My business is sort of stagnant right now given life with three kids and if I were more focused I would be in a better place professionally. I wish George was on more of a routine, Charlie and Jack were more behaved and that Dave and I had more time for our relationship.

I think as a society we are always in the mindset that we need more. We need to work more, exercise more, sleep more, parent more, teach more, be outside more, perform more, buy more – it’s exhausting! I have been feeling so rundown lately and it’s because I’m constantly living life 5 steps ahead of our current situation. Waiting for the more that is to come down the road. To the point where I went to a doctor at 6am on Saturday with crazy body pains only to discover I was extremely dehydrated. So I spent the weekend offline, refueling and resting and reminding myself that the rush for more takes away from the life that is in front of us.

So I don’t know who needs to hear this but more is not always more. I think we have been taught to feel like what we’re doing or where we are in life is not enough but I just wanted to tell you that it is. This unhealthy obsession with more keeps us from enjoying all of the gifts and opportunities in front of us. That is certainly the case with me. I have found myself trying to rush through this phase of transition and adjustment in our lives – with George, with meeting new people, with feeling settled – and I’m exhausted. We are made to think that the next phase will be even better than where we are right now and it causes us to miss so much. At least I’m speaking from experience. That slowing down, breathing in the now and just being at peace with where we are is so much more rewarding than looking ahead.

I know this is going to be one of those posts that I refer to again and again when the more creeps up and I have to be reminded that everything I need is right in front of me. Here is to a new week, feeling content knowing that you are right where you need to be. xoxo

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  1. Thank you for this, Liz! I completely agree with what you said – feeling like you are not stacking up, doing enough and being pulled in a million directions is sooo exhausting… and dehydrating! I think the pandemic and getting “back to normal” is compounding it all. I have felt so burned out by over committing the last few weeks because I finally feel safe to see people and do things again! But, glad you had this realization (and for better or worse) and your body threw a white flag to slow down. Take it easy and thank you for this reminder ♥️

    1. Yes Kat!! This is so accurate and I’m sure contributing to the madness, all of us are excited to return to “normal” but maybe it’s better to accept the slower pace of our new normal. 🙂

  2. Yes to all this. Nothing against your work at all (as I’ve been encouraged to use IG for work too) but the influencer world does not help this, unfortunately. It creates a “keeping up with Joneses” mentality that can be a bit harmful and force us out of living in the present. My family motto is “be where your feet are”. Just be present and focus on the now. Glad you are taking care of yourself. 🤍

  3. Give yourself some credit, too- you just MOVED, you just had a baby added to two….major life stressors. And you look amazing not even trying too. Also, I am a mom of 3 young toddlers (twins plus 1) and I definitely spent 3 hours in a Parking lot yesterday so I could get quiet time. So, you are not alone. It is tough!
    Anne, Roswell, GA

  4. This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. Thank you for vocalising this. Such an important message and one we should keep reminding ourselves. Thank you!

  5. This is so perfect and so, so true. Thank you for sharing this and giving us all the very important reminder to live in the NOW and to stop and smell the roses.

  6. Liz this is exactly how I felt this weekend! My weekend was filled with so many good things—great people, great conversation, being outside the whole weekend exactly how things should be. That is what I want more of! I hope you are feeling better!

  7. This is perfect! I always say life is a marathon, and slowing down is ok. But honestly the pandemic has messed with all of our minds and I think that might be part of everyone wanting to “catch up” on lost time. My kids are 21,22,& 23 years old and I feel like they have missed very important milestones in their lives due to the pandemic. Study abroad cxld, internships virtual, makes me sad they have missed personal growth opportunities. And just meeting people! Trying to remind everyone to pace themselves now for the life marathon. 🥰 You are sweet and an amazing Mama! Everything is going to be fine. Love to you and your sweet family!

  8. Spot on. 100%! Thank you for sharing your feelings on this, Liz… I feel the same way much of the time! Sending you calm & peaceful vibes in the week ahead ❤️

  9. Waking up to this post was so lovely. I don’t have kids and didn’t just move but I can 100% relate to the message of this post and was so nice to know it’s not just me. Thanks for always keeping it real ♥️

  10. “We are made to think that the next phase will be even better than where we are right now and it causes us to miss so much”

    Putting this in my notes to reference often, thanks for the reminder!

  11. This resonates so much with me! Thank you for sharing this. I hope we all manage to slow down and re-enter the world at a more relaxed pace.

  12. This same physical manifestation of stress Happened to me two months ago. I broke out into hives from running myself into the ground. I felt so guilty sitting in urgently care on a Saturday morning finally throwing in the towel – but thinking I should be working out or cleaning… how messed up is that??? The doctor was a woman in her 40s (my age) and I broke down and sobbed … it was so awkward but she said women have been coming in an doing that a lot!!! I’d like to say the experience changed me… it has a little bit – but I still have to self-cheerlead to do LESS everyday to stay chill. Glad you’re doing better 😌

  13. Very very true words… take good care. When you’re busy, we’re all busy. We’re all here to enjoy things as they come up- a cute top, a recipe, a mom great idea…I use your snack tray idea for movie night and my little one loves it. Being present also reminds us to be present. Hugs.

  14. So thankful for this message, Liz! I find myself getting caught up in always feeling the need to be and do more too. Using this post as a reminder to take a look at what I can instead do less of / have less of to free up some time to just be present.

  15. As always you put what we’re all feeling into the perfect words. Looking inwards it’s never enough. From the outside in- I’m constantly in awe of all you do, your business, how well adjusted and HAPPY your kids are and how much fun you and Dave have together. Even if it’s not on a perfect routine or schedule. Please keep being the most authentic person across these internet’s – were all here for it.

  16. Yes to all of this. I have to remind myself of this several times every single day. I have been feeling the stress and exhaustion lately too as we are “getting back to normal”. I guess our bodies and souls are reminding us to slow down and stay present. Thanks for this post. <3

  17. Thank you for this. We have been rushing to see all the family we have missed over the last year. It has been wonderful to catch up, but it has left my family exhausted and in need of some family time. This is a great reminder to stop and not only take care of yourself but recognize what my little family needs, even in the context of our bigger families.

  18. Love the concept my partner and I have definitely had this issue. I constantly have to remind him we live a great life and we are doing what we need to make a happy life. It is tough sometimes but definitely thankful for the post and here’s to a sigh of relief.

  19. Well said my Little Liz Adams! Only thing I would like more of is to see your face in real lifeeee!!!!

  20. THIS! this is couldn’t be more in line with how I have been feeling. I need to do more for work – instagram, facebook, the blog, LTK, I need to workout more, I could organize the house more or buy more to complete it, and the list just goes on. recently, like you, I have realized how much that is stealing my current joy. thank you for this reassurance, for opening up, and as always, being so honest with us. so very much appreciated!!!

    xo Laura Leigh
    https://louellareese.com

  21. Omg, this just hit home with me – it’s exactly how I feel! I was talking to a friend about this over lunch today and I told her that covid has been such a depressing time with social distancing and everything that comes with it, but on the other hand, I have truly learned to appreciate and enjoy every little moment instead of only focus on chasing what’s to come. For some reason, I don’t think I’m the only one 🙂