Liz over 4 years ago by Liz Adams

Maintaining My Style

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In the past couple of months I’ve really tried to re-connect to the little things that make me happy – going to more barre classes, taking a bath, using a face mask at night, getting a manicure, reading a book before bed – and one of those is putting the effort into getting dressed every single day. I’ve realized that this is a huge game changer in not only my own self-confidence but my confidence as a mom. I feel stronger and more in control when I take the extra effort to do something for myself and sadly, these days, that means getting dressed.

If I’m being completely honest, I’ve had a tough time these last few months adjusting to the transition of becoming a mom. Dave and I both work for ourselves and all of a sudden my full time job has become two full time jobs and sometimes it feels like I can’t do either of them well. Feeling stretched too thing, a bit resentful of my husband who gets to do both and a little bit like a slave to my son. It wasn’t until recently that I realized that I needed to stop feeling sorry for myself and start doing things to make it better. It may sound silly but maintaining my personal style is a way to maintain the person I was before Charlie – ensuring that I continue to take care of myself even though I am fully devoted to Charlie these days. That is what is amazing about personal style… it is a defining quality of all of us, a first impression! Maintaining my personal style these days means comfortable style that allows me to feel good about myself and be the best mom that I can be.

I digress…but maybe some of you can relate!

Without a doubt, one of the items in my closet that immediately makes me feel effortlessly styled( and kind of sexy!) is my Stuart Weitzman Lowland boots. It doesn’t matter what the occasion may be but these boots make me feel powerful. When in doubt, neutrals always win.

ASOS Sweater Dress (also love this, this and this)  //  Stuart Weitzman Lowland Boots (similar for less here)  //  Gucci Disco Bag

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  1. In every single outfit, I’ve been impressed with your outfits! I would have never had a clue you just had a baby! I think you look great, but glad to hear that you are doing better at maintaining your style (although I think you look awesome!)! Love the sweater dress!! I really like its slouchy style!

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  2. I LOVE this outfit – it’s so great on you!! I’ve loved following along on this journey, and from a purely social media-based standpoint, you seem to be doing an AMAZING job! Your transparency has been so inspiring. Sending prayer + good vibes!

  3. I have a little girl just two weeks younger than Charlie, so I definitely feel you on this one! My hairdryer has been collecting dust. But I think you are so right on putting in the little extra effort to help feel normal and also be more confident. Thanks for the inspo!

  4. You know how when you have the stomach flu it seems like you will never feel normal again? That’s what it is like when you have a baby. It is very stressful to be a mom! But let me assure you, that one day, your son will get in the car on his own and put on his own seatbelt and you will do a dance of joy. Suddenly, going everywhere won’t be a production. Suddenly, almost everything he says and does will amaze you. Suddenly, you’ll realize you are sleeping 7 hours uninterrupted and you didn’t have to change clothes all day. It will get easier. Hang in there! (Oh, and warning: Just about the time it gets easier is when many people get pregnant again! I waited 6 years in between. If you can do that, I recommend it. By that age your son will be a great helper for his little sis or bro. And he’ll be in school, leaving you some time for just the new baby.) Good luck with everything!

  5. You are definitely not the only one that feels this way. The book “Lean In” is based on this whole concept (which I highly recommend).
    I have 2 year old boy/girl twins and a 3rd baby due on Wednesday and I work full time in Manhattan (about a 45 min train ride from home) so devoting quality time to my kids, work, my husband, and myself is a challenge. I find that being on a schedule helps me. I get to work at 8:30a and leave at a hard 6pm. My team knows that is when I leave so if they need me, they know to meet with me before then or call my cell afterwards. That is a rule I learned from “Lean In” and it has helped. There have never been any tragedies with work but if there are things that I need to handle, I go on my laptop after the kids go to sleep.
    Make sure you schedule time for dates, friends, workout time, shopping, brunch, etc. You need to do things that make you feel like yourself and that you aren’t sacrificing too much. Working out is very important to me so I make sure I devote at least 3 days a week to that whether it’s going to the gym or doing a Beachbody 30 minute dvd (I love 21 Day Fix). I feel so much better after a good workout. Plus, this time away from my kids, allows for my mind and body to reboot and for my husband to spend quality time with our kids. A happy mom (even dad) is a better mom.

  6. Thank you so much for being honest about struggles of a new mom and encouraging all of us to make that ME time which at times seems like the last thing that you want to do after a long day 🙂

  7. I don’t have a child, but I can totally see how it would be hard to focus on your style while you’re taking care of someone who’s completely dependent upon you! I think doing the small things is definitely important. And this dress is forsure a huge step in getting back on track because it’s so cute!! I love the contrasting textures and it looks so cozy!!

    Lauren
    http://oliverstwistblog.com

  8. I don’t have kids, so I can only sympathize about the struggle of being a mom and having a full-time job, but I *do* totally understand the psychological impact of not feeling like there’s any reason to get dressed every day. In the past, I’ve worked from home and often didn’t leave the house all day. It became so easy to just wear leggings and a t-shirt (which is totally not me!) to sit at my desk and work. Why waste a cute outfit? After a few months of feeling not-so-great, I started making myself put together pretty outfits just for me. I found that even if I didn’t leave the house all day, I felt so much happier and more myself. It also made me more productive. It’s so crazy how much clothes can affect our mood! <3

    xx Hannah // http://www.HomemadeBanana.com

  9. Thanks for being real! It is truly refreshing in the world of social media perfection, and I’m sure many other readers feel the same way. I don’t have any kids yet but “real life” entries like this make me feel like I can do it.

  10. Thank you so much for being so honest and open about both the ups and downs of new mommyhood! I’ve recently started following your blog and, as a new mom in Chicago to a 3-month old (also named Charlie!), I can definitely relate to so much of what you are going through. There is no way to prepare for all the ways life dramatically changes post-baby but being able to open up about your experiences is so refreshing and I know myself and many moms can relate to how you are feeling right now. I agree that taking time to feel good about yourself post-baby is SO important!!! Thanks for being such a great inspiration for other new moms out there. You look fabulous and are doing a great job!

  11. Aw, Liz. I love this post so much. You’re always keeping it real, which is one of the main reasons I read your blog daily. Charlie is the cutest and he is lucky to have you as a mom. You’re looking fab, and I love the new haircut! 🙂

    xo,
    Natalie | Natalie Was Here

  12. Thank you for being so genuine with your blog! I’m a new mom too, and my husband and I are both self employed. I’ve definitely struggled with feeling torn between getting work done (which just can’t happen some days) and resentment that he can come and go and get things done easily. It’s good to know that we’re not alone! Enjoy your time with your sweet little one!

  13. So appreciate your honest and openness about being a new mom! I’m a new mom too (9 month old baby girl) who left the corporate world to stay home with my little one. My life has completely changed (for the better of course:)) but I can so relate to all of the above. Thanks for sharing! And those boots – I have loved them since your very first post with them – they are the best.

  14. Such an honest and thoughtful post and I think you are doing an amazing job with everything going on. It’s hard to have so much going on and never feel like you’re giving 100% to anything! I love this look and can’t get enough of Charlie snaps so keep ’em coming!

    Shaheen | Lows to Luxe