Living over 4 years ago by Liz Adams

5 Things I Didn’t Know About Pregnancy

5 things I didn't know about pregnancyAt almost 34 weeks into my pregnancy I’m starting to feel like I have a grasp on this whole 9 month process. It can be an amazing experience, if you let it, but I have definitely noticed a few things that I was not only surprised by but changes that I wasn’t expecting to affect me as much as they have. I know a lot of you might not be pregnant but I posted this photo on instagram last week and was overwhelmed by the response/comments that came rushing in. No matter what issues, hurdles, challenges or changes we are going through you know that someone out there is going through something similar and it helps to put good vibes into the universe to know that you’re not alone in any negative or positive feelings you may be experiencing. This community is an amazing platform to help empower women and I hope that this post helps you when you’re in this position.

1. Pregnancy will test your confidence. Before I got pregnant I always told myself I would be the cutest pregnant person, ever. I would get dressed everyday, rock the bump, and just be one of those super adorable moms-to-be that I admired on the streets or on Pinterest. Although it may seem like I’ve got it together on the blog, trust me, I’m trying really hard and most days that’s not the case.

For the majority of my pregnancy {up until 28 weeks-ish}, I felt great! I would say to people that aside from a growing belly, I honestly forget that I’m pregnant. I was comfortable and loving that people were actually taking notice of the fact that I was pregnant {and didn’t just eat a very large lunch}. However, overnight my pregnancy hit overdrive and getting dressed felt/feels like climbing Mount Everest. With social media, blogs, Pinterest, and the general pressure that society puts on women during their pregnancy it is difficult to hide from the fact that being pregnant and feeling pregnant is hard on not only your body but your body image. Opening my closet and seeing all of these items that I physically can’t wear, browsing your favorite stores knowing nothing fits, realizing that proportions that you are usually comfortable in make you look like you weigh way more than you do, and gaining 7 pounds in 2 weeks {seriously} is a really uncomfortable feeling. It’s honestly something I struggle with daily and reading your comments on this instagram were a huge comfort. It helps to remind myself that this is 9 short months where I am selflessly giving myself to something else. Weight comes and goes regardless of whether or not I’m pregnant so it is best to just embrace the change and look forward to what it brings in return.

My tip – find cute maternity wear. A few of my favorites include ASOS, Isabella Oliver, HATCH, Shopbop’s Maternity and Rosie Pope.

2. You will have a new-found appreciation for your body. Although your body image might be a little skewed towards the end of your pregnancy, you will also feel so proud of the things your body can do. We are growing a human. A pumping heart, lungs, a brain, skin, eyes, fingernails, bones – I mean it is absolutely incredible. I’ve honestly felt like my mind and body have been two different beings throughout the past 8 months. As soon as I start to panic that something feels off, I have a headache or a lovely symptom starts to take over more than normal it’s like my body becomes this machine telling me that everything is as it should be. It’s a very powerful feeling knowing that you’re doing something bigger than yourself. It makes you feel invincible and makes all of the negative feelings worth it.

3. Goodbye sleep. Pregnancy insomnia has hit me like a ton of bricks in my third trimester. I was definitely not prepared for the lack of sleep and the affects it would have on my day-to-day. As someone who has always relied on sleep {I have always slept like a rock for 8-10 hours a night #imababy} this was a serious wake up call. I’m grateful that it is training me for what is to come but lack of sleep has been my biggest complaint of pregnancy. It’s hard to roll your big belly from side to side during the night, get comfortable in general, and ignore the continuous thoughts racing through your mind about what’s to come! I mentioned this in a previous post but lavender oils have been really helpful {put a drop or two on your wrists and temples}. *Also, completely random side effect that is a bitch – my feet have grown a full half size. Hoping they go back to normal once the baby arrives because none of my shoes fit!

4. Savor moments with your significant other and time in general. I find myself very emotional about the fact that in 6 weeks Liz and Dave will no longer be just Liz and Dave. Dave caught me staring at him very creepily a few weeks ago and when he asked me “what are you doing?” I just started sobbing. Haha. I know life is really about to begin when we see our child that we created together, but it makes me emotional thinking about the past 6 selfish years we have spent together. Time is a funny thing these days – I feel like I’m stuck in this in-between where life is on hold. Like I’m about to walk through this door that is going to close behind me and I’m never going to be able to unlock that part of my life again. When I found out I was pregnant I immediately called my mom and asked if I could still come home once I was a mom and if she would still cook me breakfast and let me pretend to be a child. I get emotional just thinking about the past 29 years and this huge leap that I’m about to take. It’s exhilarating and scary all at once. But when one door closes, another door opens and knowing that this is everything I’ve always wanted helps me find comfort in the adventure!

5. Every experience is different and you don’t know until you know. You can read all of the books, ask all of your friends, and until you experience it yourself you have no idea what the hell is happening. I’ve talked to so many people, asked questions and it’s in one ear and out the other until you are in it. You just have to trust the process, trust the strength of your body, and trust that something bigger than you is watching over you and your baby. Every ache, pain, upset stomach typically means that your baby is using your body the way it needs to {unless you’re really worried then obviously call your doctor!} so you just have to sit back – or lay down, on your side, in the fetal position, with a pillow between your legs – and enjoy the ride.

I can’t wait to share what we’ve been working on for our baby in the coming months! Our nursery, baby gear, and the rest of our new apartment in Lincoln Park. Lots of fun ahead and I’m so thankful to have your continued support. xo

And remember…“Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure.” Attitude is everything, you have to enjoy the adventure!

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  1. Thank you for sharing so thoughtfully! It has been inspiring to follow your journey thus far, and while I can only imagine how challenging some moments have been, your grace and joy in this season are so sweet. Keep it up, girl–you’re SO close! πŸ™‚

  2. LOVE THE POST!! even after 3 babies I swear your 5 things still happen each time!!! but totally worth it. When mommas go for baby #2 you cry realizing, “we will no longer be just a family of the 3 of us…” as oppose to the 2 etc etc.

  3. This post is amazing, Liz. So honest and real (one of the many reasons why I love your blog!). I wish you and Dave all the best. You might not be just “Liz and Dave” from here on out, but I think my parents and other parents of the world would tell you you’ll be something better πŸ™‚

    xo,
    Natalie | Natalie Was Here

  4. I love your honest in this post Liz! Thanks so much for sharing! It is helpful to know some of the hurdles I may come across in the future. So glad to hear you have a positive attitude and can’t wait for your little tyke to come into this world!

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

  5. I’m 3 months postpartum and it is SO tough dealing with all of the changes your body goes through. My biggest advice is to not attempt to wear regular clothes after baby comes. Just keep in perspective that it really is a “short” period on the scale of life, you will get through it! Very excited for you, it’s the most amazing experience becoming a mom!

  6. Girl I feel ya. I gained 70 (!!) pounds with my son (now 2.5yrs) and it was awful. No sleep, couldn’t breath, nothing fit. It was a SERIOUS test on my confidence (plus side – after the baby is born you’ll feel like your wardrobe has doubled because of all the things you can wear again). Get ready for another round of crazy changes post-postpartum. As someone who struggled with postpartum depression (something nobody wants to talk about) I always tell new moms that if you feel like something isn’t right you need to GET HELP. The pressure put on (especially younger) moms these days is ridiculous — and it only gets more intense after the baby is born. Everyone will have an opinion about EVERYTHING YOU DO — just remember your the Mom and you’re always right πŸ™‚

    Sending love from Cincinnati <3

  7. Liz, you ARE the cutest pregger lady! And you wouldn’t be able to tell that you have your struggles. Thanks for being so honest and loved this post. In the home stretch! xoxo

  8. I am 37 weeks pregnant with our first and all I can say is “YES” to every point, especially the sadness about no longer just being “the two of you.”

  9. #4 was the hardest for me. This is something I was so emotional about almost everyday. I questioned whether or not I really took advantage of the time I spent dating my now husband, the time in our marriage when it was just the two of us, but honestly…all it took was that first look at our son and I’ve never once had those feelings again! It changes your whole perspective on life and love. It’s indescribable and amazing! But, I totally get it because I struggled with this all 40 weeks of pregnancy! πŸ™‚

  10. These are such great insights Liz…and all so true. And the last one is my favorite, everyone likes to tell you your business when your pregnant and what childbirth will be like or even having a baby in general but I’m here to say that is is DIFFERENT for every single person. Every baby is different and what works for some won’t work for others, trust me I’ve tried it all! haha

    But it is the most exhausting and rewarding adventure of your life and you will love every minute of it! And you look absolutely adorable btw! XO

  11. Liz,

    I have been a longtime reader of yours — I LOVE your blog. I check it everyday! My husband and I are expecting our first baby a few weeks after yours so I have really enjoyed following along on your journey, but haven’t commented until now! Your feelings mirror mine. I was having a pretty difficult and emotional morning where I was worrying about my body and how it seems to have gotten larger overnight — again — and about what life will be like once our baby gets here, and then I read this post and it put everything back into perspective for me. THANK YOU 1 million times! I look forward to more of your lifestyle/personal posts like this πŸ™‚ And a very belated congratulations on your pregnancy!

  12. Amen sister. The sleep thing is so not fair. Your body should actually let you sleep MORE in anticipation of the lack of sleep you are about to experience :). Remember number 5 after the baby is born. You’ll read all the books and listen to all of the advice (and you’ll get A LOT of advice), but every experience, every stage, is different, and you don’t know until you’re in it.

  13. Liz, Love your honesty here. I’m no where near at the point where pregnancy is on the brain yet, but having just gotten married, it will definitely be a thought at some point in the future. It’s nice to know the good and the bad from someone who, over the years of reading your blog, I’ve come to trust and look forward to their perspective. It’s equally nice to know that there is much to look forward to and much to surprise and challenge you along the way. Wishing you the best with your last few weeks and the welcoming of your little one! You will always be Liz and Dave; now it’s just a new adventure.

  14. My kids are teenagers now, but I still have vivid memories of going through the same emotions while being pregnant with my firstborn. First off, you look amazing! Secondly, it sounds like you’re doing great — keep trusting and listening to your body — pregnant women and moms have super powers πŸ™‚ Enjoy!

  15. Love your post! So honest! I wish you all the best and you’ll see, it’s really worth it! Kids change your life in a better way, even if you had a great one just with your significant other so far. I have a four years old son and an 8 months baby boy, and I love them more than anything in the world. I don’t have time for myself anymore, they sometimes drive me crazy and forget about intimacy πŸ˜‰ but I can’t imagine (and don’t want to) my life without them. So take care of yourself while you can and enjoy the ride. And keep us posted :-)!
    Love,
    Stephanie

  16. Aw, Liz! I loved reading this. Obviously I’m nowhere near the point in my life where I will be having a baby, but it’s so refreshing to hear what you’re really going through. Also, you seriously ARE the cutest pregnant woman ever. You may say it’s just on the blog, but every time I see you, you look adorable and more put together than us non-pregnant women. Can’t wait to meet Baby Adams in a few weeks!!! πŸ™‚

    PS: HAPPY BIRTHDAY! xoxo

  17. Even though I’m not pregnant and don’t plan on having kids anytime soon, I appreciate your honesty and authenticity in this post. So often it seems like pregnancy is this amazing thing that somehow is perfect in every way, and while it is–overall–it’s also a struggle, and I love that you’re sharing what you learned through your experience. I’ll definitely keep this in mind whenever my time comes! I hope you had a lovely birthday, too. xoxo

  18. You are a beautiful mom to be and I hope I look a 10th of you look like when I am pregnant.
    This transition can be so hard I can imagine, my hubby and I have been talking babies and I can’t wait to have one but I am so scared of the pregnancy so hearing your thoughts is really nice. As a blogger I fear the closet trouble but it’s for such a wonderful outcome can’t wait to see more of the new apartment and the baby!
    love from London

    xo S.

    http://www.sylviassparkles.com

  19. I’m not a mom and not even engaged! But one of the things that most resonated with me was the idea of still wanting to be a kid at home. One of the things that most scares me about the next steps in life is the idea that somehow “things will change” and I can’t still go home and be my parent’s child. You’re the first person I’ve heard say the same thing- glad to know it’s not just me πŸ™‚

  20. I wish an honest post had been around like this when I was pregnant. As much as I listened to friends and family, I knew I had to experience it on my own. But a heartwarming honest opinion of someone that was pregnant just telling it like it is helps in so many ways. I was instantly brought back to my life a year ago with everything you said above. I too thought I would look and feel cute pregnant, enjoy every aspect, etc. But the reality is sometimes it’s just hard, sometimes you cry for no reason and sometimes you just don’t want to do it anymore.

    Hang in there…it’s almost done and you’ll be meeting your little one soon. And you still look fantastic!

    Jamie // Hello There, Lady!

  21. LOVE everything about this! I am 28 weeks, and sharing so many similar feelings as you. To me, pregnancy is ironically a very personal journey, but one that you CAN’T do alone! I so enjoy your honesty, and I think so many readers enjoy your blog & photos over some other sugar-coated, everything-is-perfect pregnant bloggers. You look gorgeous, your pregnancy updates are my fave!

  22. This is such an amazing post! I can’t believe it’s taken me almost a week to catch up and read it. Love your personal posts and love how real you are being about pregnancy. Even though Dan and I are not even close to being ready, knowing that when the time comes, it’s ok to be apprehensive and a little unsure.

    Can’t wait to see what you two have done to prepare for little Baby Adams’ arrival!

    Katharine
    http://www.paytington.com

  23. Aw, Liz! This post is SO cute. I am not pregnant or married, but as a 24 year old with dreams of a life that looks very much like yours, I look up to you and know this post will come in handy for me one day. You’ll be a great Mom, and when you need a break, there’s always Grandma! ;]

  24. Liz, I look forward to reading your blog every morning over coffee! You look amazing pregnant. What you said about calling your mom as soon as you got pregnant really resonated with me. It’s amazing how life milestones make you realize that girlhood is behind us get always with us. Such a bittersweet feeling that you explained beautifully. All the best for the remainder of your pregnancy!

  25. After reading your Q&A post from today, this link was at the bottom.. and I think it was meant to be for me to click on it! I’m just about 34 weeks and today has been a rough one. It made me feel so much better reading your words! Thanks for always being you and sharing real life and emotions on your blog! ❀️