Family 12 months ago by Liz Adams

Setting Yourself Up for Success in 2018 + My Goals for the New Year

 
Happy New Year, friends! I know we are officially 8 days into the new year but today is a good enough day to start my “new year” goals. It felt so refreshing to take a couple weeks off from the blog. It went by in the blink of an eye but it felt good to rest, recharge and really spend quality time with family. You don’t realize how much time you dedicate towards something until you take time away. Not only physically but mentally and emotionally. I loved freeing up some space in my head. It gave me the chance to actually think about all of my hopes and dreams for the year ahead. 

2017 was a blur. I was basically pregnant for all of it and ended the year on such a high with baby Jack. It kind of felt like the entire year was leading up to that moment. Not only did we have a baby but we bought a house in February, moved in June and spent the rest of the year moving (ha, it still feels like we just moved). A big year for the Adams family! 2018 has some big shoes to fill. 

Do you acknowledge resolutions for the year ahead? I usually always do but in all honesty, this year it feels like I’d be setting myself up for failure. A resolution doesn’t have to be defined. If we accomplish something we strive to do – great! Gold star for us. If not, there is always next year. Instead of putting so much pressure on resolutions, I’ve decided to set goals for myself. I’ve also taken some time to acknowledge the areas that I personally need to work on. Here are my focuses for 2018:

P E R S O N A L   G O A L S

  • be more kind and patient. This is a big one for me. Especially with Dave. Parenthood can be a rough ride and especially hard on a marriage. Dave and I had some rocky moments when Charlie was born and although it is night and day with baby #2, I still need to be conscious of my actions and reactions. Sleepless nights are not an excuse for anger. I need to remind myself to take a deep breathe and not try to control every little detail. 
  • relinquish control. As I said above, homegirl likes to be in control. There is no need to elaborate here, I just need to chill the f*** out sometimes.
  • exercise, drink more water, get more sleep. Blah blah blah. It’s the same thing every year but in all honesty, investing in a personal trainer last year was the best thing I ever did for myself and I plan on doing it again. All in all, it makes me a better mama, wife, friend, daughter, sister – the list goes on. 
  • read one book a month. Every year I buy all of these books with big plans to read them and then end up sitting on my dresser alllll year. This year I am being more realistic. 12 books in one year sounds way more doable! Reading honestly makes me feel smarter. Something this sleepy mama who is physically incapable of forming sentences, needs.
  • save more money. I am going to elaborate on this because I always get questions about how Dave and I save for our family as two entrepreneurs (and in my opinion, we do a pretty good job!). This year Dave and I really want to budget more for the future – for our home, for our kids, etc.
  • keep my priorities straight. Some days are going to be better than others but all in all, I need to remember the hierarchy of what is really important. Mental notes!

A few more to-do’s that aren’t necessarily goals but are worth noting: we will be renovating our kitchen and adding a bathroom to our first floor (yes, our 90 year old home currently does not have a bathroom on the main floor #oldlady),  I need to take a warm vacation with Dave and we need to baptize our babies (I still haven’t baptized Charlie omgggggggg ugh).

I sort of had a realization these last two weeks. Nothing crazy because I’ve thought this a million times but it is truly something I am going to acknowledge this year. We all have those moments when something bad happens to someone close to you. A friend loses a loved one for example and you think to yourself, why does anything else matter? Right before the holidays, a close family friend lost their 10 year old son to cancer. Ten.

I hate to say that his death was a little bit of a wake up call to me. Life is so precious. Family is so precious. Tomorrow is never promised and everything can change in the blink of an eye. Of course there are going to be moments in our every day life that stress us out. I am going to get anxiety because I’m late for something, I’m going to procrastinate and be super last minute for a deadline, Charlie is going to have a tantrum in the grocery store and I’m going to feel like I’m stretched too thing. It’s inevitable. But I’m going to give myself a little grace in 2018 and let those moments consume me for only a second because life is too short. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in what everyone else is doing, the pretty pictures on social media, the people that seem like they are truly living their best lives and you’re topless on the couch for the 4th day in a row (hands up over here). So whether 2017 was a shit year and 2018 is gong to be your best year ever, just remember this:

“Your journey has molded you for the greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.”

Ok, I digress. Let’s talk about what you can expect here on Sequins & Stripes! I am so excited to bring you more in 2018. More Liz, more family, more snapshots of our life at home, more wellness, more recipes, more home progress, etc. My favorite part of this website and my social platforms is the conversations that are created with all of you! I remember at the start of 2017, I really wanted to streamline my content for this site. I comfortably fell into my roll as “mom” and wanted to share more aspects of our life with you. My life is clearly no longer focused on the outfits I wear every day which I think shows in the additional content we have been testing over the past 12 months. As we enter 2018 I have some really exciting ideas to bring even more content your way. 

B U S I N E S S   G O A L S

  • grow my social channels. This has been a huge goal of mine for a year or so but is seemingly becoming more and more difficult to do. My goal is to share more on my platforms. I really want to do more Instagram lives, whether that be Q&A’s, tutorials, shopping hauls or I even mentioned weekly cooking dinner dates over a glass of wine. Wouldn’t that be fun! I think I’m going to do it starting next week. Let me know if you have any other suggestions for what you love to see on my social channels in the comments!
  • create more video. Many of you may not know that I have a Youtube Channel (it is pretty sad, I haven’t made that many videos). Whether you enjoy video or not, I personally love having them! It’s a fun way to save our conversations and I think it is a fun way for you to feel like I’m not just robot behind a screen.
  • set aside money for taxes early. Dreaded taxes get my every year. I am usually so organized with my accounting but sadly I am currently a few months behind. This year I am going to be more prepared before April rolls around!
  • be more proactive about working with brands that I want to work with. Why not? I have nothing to lose! I’m always such a baby about stuff like this. 

Everyone always asks me “what are your plans with the blog? what’s next?” and I have the hardest time answering that question. Right now it feels like everything is right where it should be. As long as you all enjoy the content that we I am creating, it feels like we are in a good place. If there is anything you feel like you are missing or anything that you wish you could see more of – please feel free to leave it in the comments. Whether it is more motherhood, if you are here for the fashion, or if you want more Dave and the boys – I am all ears!

As always, thank you from the bottom of my heart for following along on our journey! I really hope to make 2018 the best year yet. xoxo

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  1. I really enjoy your recipes and count them as some of the best! My mom and I still make your roasted tomato soup once a month. Love the lower carb items, please continue!

  2. I love love love that your blog – and more impressively, your social channels – are so real. The lifestyle content you create including the life updates, Coffee with Liz, recipes, wellness, etc. is so fantastic and is what always keeps me coming back. Your style is so lovely, and it’s always great to see what outfits you’re putting together, but the elements above are what I really love. It would be so much fun to see more YouTube videos on your channel and anything else you’d like to share!

  3. Great post! 2017 was also a great year for me! I too was pregnant most of the year (due date is on Saturday) and we also bought a new house! So following your blog and insta-stories was really relatable to me. Looking forward to your blog posts! Cheers to 2018!

  4. Love this Liz! I had a little thought I wanted to share. I invest in quite a lot of basics but I feel like my outfits start looking very plain. I’d love a series on how to style basics using accessories and also maybe some help on mixing patterns? I tend to struggle with this sort of thing. Congrats on your beautiful family and good luck with the kitchen reno, so exciting!

  5. Love this post, Liz! Such a great reminder to take a step back and remember what’s important in life. Thanks for sharing that beautiful quote and your thoughts on 2018. Looking forward to all the amazing content you’ll be sharing this year! Happy New Year!
    Lauren | Midtown Magnolia
    http://www.midtownmagnoliablog.com

  6. I’m a relatively new reader (though I follow more closely on Instagram!) but I love this post about your goals for this year! I’m kind of in the same boat in terms of resolutions vs. goals. I just think framing it that way makes them a little more attainable. Thanks for being so real in this space (and on social!)
    http://blissfullybrave.com

  7. These were great thoughts to start off the new year! My husband and I were married in 2015, bought our first house in 2016 and had our first baby in 2017 so I appreciate you sharing your journey with your new house and the boys as you enter into these new phases of life too. I really relate to your post and appreciate seeing how your style evolves, I’m so clueless how to keep up with mine during all the life changes I’m having. 2018 sounds like it’s going to be a fun year for the blog/social media channels!

  8. Loved this! Thanks Elizabeth! I especially liked the quote…“Your journey has molded you for the greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.”
    I am a homeschool mom (retired RN :o) of 2 boys ages 5 and 7. I personally am going to limit my social media exposure this new year. But I still love reading your blog. I look for fashion inspiration (links are so helpful). I also come to your blog for authenticity on motherhood and being a wife. My job (homeschooling) takes a lot of energy away from being a wife and just a normal mom. We are all trying to balance it all and that’s why I come to your blog and site. So yes, I would say just keep doing what you are doing. I love the fashion (including Dave’s fashion…that helps when I’m ordering clothes for my husband), family, fitness gear, and home (I love interior design so its fun to see what you are up to!). Blessings to you and yours in 2018

  9. LOVE these goals. I have been reading several posts on resolutions/goals for the year and this list mirrors my needs. My favorite is the relinquish control one of course. My list had “let it go” on it, but I think I like the chill the f***out comment better 🙂

  10. You are a rockstar! So glad to have you back, and hope you soaked-up that well-deserved break time with your precious family. Really excited to hear more about your budgeting and money-saving process! Also pumped about Instagram lives!! 🙂

  11. love love love this, Liz. Truly inspiring; I appreciate your honesty and ability to be real. Hold those babies close, you’re doing a fantastic job.

  12. A kid dying of cancer sucks! My friend died of cancer on Christmas. He was 25. He had 5 different types. It’s just horrible! I need to learn to start taking more time for myself as well. I wish you the best of luck for your goals!

    Jennifer
    Effortlessly Sophisticated

  13. I love what you shared about life Liz. Life is precious. I’m diagnosed with cancer and I also have lost friends that I have made during my journey due to cancer and it makes you prioritize what is important. 2017 was an exciting year for you guys and I bet 2018 will be too!

    http://www.rdsobsessions.com

  14. Love your goals, Liz! So easy to relate to even though I’m not a mom.
    My boyfriend and I lost a best friend in October, and man, has my perspective on life changed. While we took some time to grieve, I always think about him and how I need to live life to the fullest every single day – especially with those I love.

    Thanks for sharing your goals!

    The Champagne Edit

  15. Love all these goals and relate to so many of them! I’m also a major control freak and although we don’t have children yet, I easily snip at my husband or get super defensive over the smallest things. So It’s probably best I start working on that now before kids come into the picture. Also, my husband owns his own business and we set up an entire account solely to hold money for our taxes and it has been a lifesaver!
    xoxo
    Logan
    http://habitsandhues.com

  16. I would be interested in posts about the books you read! I’m always struggling to find books worth my while. I love to read but have very little time to do it (I.e. I can’t stay awake at night). Love your blog and the “real life” aspect. Also love that you mix expensive and everyday brands. You’re my favorite-Keep it up!

  17. Great post! You and I sound so similar. I have a hard time letting things go and just letting life happen. The quote you shared really hits home. Thanks for writing your blog, I love to read it!

  18. So, so sorry to hear about your family friend. So awful. It really does put it all in perspective.
    We have a lot of the same personal goals with fitness and reading and chilling the eff out. I am so controlling, I am terrified for when I have kids that I’ll lose my damn mind! ha.
    And I always love your content 🙂
    xx Taylor
    The Sarcastic Blonde

  19. Always more babies!! 🙂 But seriously, love what you’ve been doing with the blog and with Insta this year, even as a non-mom. Can’t wait to see what’s in store in 2018!

  20. Love your goals! We share a lot of them-being less controlling is key and I would love you know how to do this with two small kids at home, my poor hubs gets the brunt of it. A tragedy does seem to remind you how precious life is, as sad as that is. I unexpedectly lost my dad 2 years ago and I still haven’t recovered. Soak it all in!

  21. Insta Live Coffee with Liz! Those posts are some of my favs, it would be cool to ask a follow up question and just hear the answers live <3

  22. This is a great post, Liz! I’d love to hear more about how it’s a “night and day difference” with baby number 2! My favorite posts are always your motherhood/family related ones! And, is it bad that I think sleep deprivation is totally an excuse to be angry? 😛

  23. I love this post! You inspired me yesterday to go through my closet so much more realistically, getting rid of stuff that I’ve been keeping but truly will probably never wear. Your style is the best!

  24. You’re doing a great job! Love all the content lately. Especially your skincare Recommendations. More recipes would be super helpful (I am finally trying to learn to cook healthy, easy meal instead takeout every night) and I can’t wait to see how the renovation goes!

  25. I started following you about 1.5 years ago because I loved how “real” you seemed and I really enjoyed seeing my favorite Chicago places pop up in my newsfeed. Now I look forward to your posts about being a mom and a business woman and the platform that you have provided for your followers to communicate and get advice on beauty, fashion, home decor and raising kiddos. Continue to do you girl…

  26. Hi! I’ve been a follower since I moved to Chicago. Thanks for giving me lots of tips for my new home. I read this post last month and have been meaning to ask you about the final business goal… I work for a large Chicago company and run several well-known brands. I am planning to do a large influencer program this year and would love to connect with you to understand more about this programs from the Influencer point of view… Please shoot me an email if you’d be open to connecting! Thanks!