Family over 6 years ago by Liz Adams

How to Date Your Husband

Shop the post:
Likely Polka Dot Dress (also love this and this), Steve Madden Heels, Sensi Studio Bag, Lisi Lerch Earrings c/o

Doesn’t this kind of sound like the title of your new favorite romantic comedy? Dave and I often talk about our early years as a couple. We had so much fun! We lived a few blocks apart in Lincoln Park, had lots of a late nights and early mornings and generally life was very care free. We never worried about being overly tired, drank too many bottles of wine with our friends on a Tuesday, had weekend theme parties and went on so many dates. Every day felt like a date in those early years because it was just about us. 

Shop the post:
Likely Polka Dot Dress (also love this and this), Steve Madden Heels, Sensi Studio Bag, Lisi Lerch Earrings c/o

Fast forward NINE years and we have two kiddos who pretty much rule our world. Finding time for a date night is hard but feels like such a luxury when we do. It got me thinking about all of the days in-between, when the boys go to sleep and we have the opportunity to just sit and be together. Yes, most nights we are exhausted or on our computers or zoned out in front of the TV to escape reality for a bit before bed (haha, parent life is so exciting). But these in between days are really important. 

Do you know what your love language is? Mine is gift giving and most of the time my gifts come in the form of food. I know that it is important to introduce eating as a family with our kids (which we do at least a few times a week) but sometimes I just want my kids to go to bed so I can enjoy a quiet dinner with my husband. I look at those nights as a date and I really try to make them special. Whether that be prepping Dave’s favorite meal, setting the table outdoors with an expensive bottle of wine or queuing up our favorite movie and ordering pizza to eat on the couch. Sometimes these nights are my favorite, too!

So, how do you date your husband? I think it is always maintaining the mindset of those early days when surprising each other and being spontaneous was always at the forefront of our plans. Small gestures throughout the week that are small but mean a lot. Dave and I will call each other and say “this is just an I love you call!” and that’s it! Nothing else needs to be said. Just a small reminder. 

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

  1. eek- you might want to proofread- the last paragraph-it says how do you hate your husband instead of date

  2. 1. LOVE this dress. I have it too and it’s the best.
    2. I don’t have a husband, but my boyfriend and I definitely get into those “sitting on the couch on our phones/laptops” ruts. I think it’s so important to make sure to keep dating your significant other!

    The Champagne Edit

  3. We’ve been married almost 2 years and thinking about having kids in the next year, so dates are our priority right now! He works long hours, so we try to do a casual dinner Thursday and then a big date night every Saturday night. Our goal is to go to all our favorite restaurants in Boston before we move to the ‘burbs for a house and kiddos.

  4. I think it’s so important to avoid getting into a β€œrut.” Becoming complacent in a relationship is often a death sentence. It’s wonderful that you and your husband still spend that quality time together. πŸ™‚

  5. Love this post so much Liz and it’s a topic that such a big one to talk and think about. I’ve been married for 3 1/2 years and been with my husband for 7 1/2. It’s funny how much really does change once you live with each other and build a routine. Keeping the romance and flame going takes a bit more effort than it once did in those early months and years or dating, but it’s so worth it!
    xoxo Logan

  6. I love this! I just got married in April and we have been trying to have date night one a week, whether that’s at home or out somewhere. It’s nice to dress up a little and make even dinner at home special! I’m sure it gets harder as life gets more busy between kiddos and work, so good for you two for making that time!